I have a love hate relationship with the new year. On one hand I love the clean, fresh slate, all of the possibilities waiting for me. On the other hand I hate the disappointment of, once again, not meeting my so-called resolutions. I put a lot of pressure on myself to do better, be better, try harder, produce more. It’s kind of exhausting. And not a little overwhelming. So this year I’m trying something different. This morning I worked with these free worksheets from Susannah Conway that helped me reflect on what worked and what didn’t in 2012 and develop a vision of what I want 2013 to look like. I ended up with three words that will inform 2013: vibrant, focused, connected. I won’t go into details here, but all three will impact all areas of my life.
Then, instead of making a list of all the things I want to do or change I chose the one thing that I believe will make the greatest difference in my life. When our kids were little, my husband used to say that how we started the day set the tone for the rest of the day. If we started off hurried and irritable then the day was pretty much doomed. But if we regrouped and started over, pretending to wake up again with the girls, we all had a chance to start over. And that silliness of restarting the day usually jumpstarted everyone’s mood. I thought about how I begin most of my days: feed the cats and dog and go straight to the computer where I check email, Facebook, blogs, the news. Next thing I know an hour has passed. And it’s not the loss of the hour that is the biggest problem, it’s the mindset I’m in from that point on. I find myself exposed to all the drama the world has to offer whether it’s personal or political, weather or culture related. I soak all that in and it clutters my mind, my energy. So, the one change I am going to try and make is no computer until after lunch. I am going to look into buying one of those internet blocking programs for when my own little willpower falters. This morning I did some yoga, meditated, made a bowl of oatmeal and came into my office to write morning pages and work with the Unraveling worksheets. No internet, no TV. Two and half hours later I had accomplished a lot. I felt clear and focused. I had planned on doing this last night so before I went to bed, I prepared my writing area. I had my pens and notebooks ready to go, my space cleaned. All I had to do was sit down. That’s one thing I learned from the worksheets, that I do much better when I plan and prepare. It helps in every area of my life from eating healthy to staying on a budget to my creative life. You don’t usually associate planning and preparation with creativity but I find it provides a necessary structure.
So, I still have many things I want to accomplish and change this year. But instead of focusing on each one separately I am trying to start each day from a clear, focused place that will then allow me to accomplish all that I want to in 2013.
How about you? Do you make resolutions? I’d love to hear what works for you.
I wish you all a happy, productive year filled with wonder and creative adventures.
Happy New Year and thank you being a part of my creative adventure!