Remember being a child and needing to ask for permission for just about everything? To watch a show. Go out with friends. Have a snack. Stay up later.
We needed permission to keep us safe. To help us learn to make choices that were good for us. And we looked for that permission from our parents, teachers and caregivers.
We looked for that permission outside of ourselves.
Often, we carry that permission-seeking well into our adulthood. I know I have.
I sometimes look to agents and contests to give me permission to be a writer. If that person out there sees something worthwhile in my work, then I must be a writer, right?
I am a writer because I write.
I am a writer because it is how I live in the world
It is how I inhabit this life.
It is how I process this being human.
I don’t need permission to call myself a writer.
I don’t need an agent or a publishing contract to call myself a writer.
I grant myself permission.
What do you need to grant yourself permission to do or be?
Maybe you need permission to :
To speak up.
To not finish that book you started. (Seriously, let it go.)
To say no.
To say yes.
To go after a new dream.
To let an old dream go.
To accept an apology you never received.
To extend forgiveness to yourself.
To embrace your body as it is right now.
Whatever you need permission to do or be or say or believe, consider it granted.
(Feel free to share what you are granting permission for in the comments!)